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SSS. Module 12: Polite Behaviour Around People & Dogs

Dog Behaviour

End jumping, over-excitement, and chaotic greetings. You’ll teach calm, polite behaviour at home and out in the world.

This module is extremely valuable because most “bad manners” aren’t disobedience — they’re emotional overflow, confusion, or instinct.
When dogs learn HOW to behave politely around people and other dogs, life becomes calmer, safer, and much more enjoyable.

Teach your dog calm greetings, controlled behaviour in social settings, and better manners at home and outdoors.

Most dogs aren’t naturally polite.
They:

  • jump
  • rush forward
  • bark with excitement
  • get overwhelmed
  • pull toward people or dogs
  • greet too intensely
  • react when frustrated

This module teaches your dog:

  • calm approaches
  • controlled greetings
  • healthy social skills
  • emotional stability
  • positive interactions

Let’s turn chaotic greetings into calm, confident behaviour.

 

🔵 1. Why Dogs Struggle With Social Manners

Dogs often misbehave around people/dogs because:

they are overstimulated

they lack clear routines and boundaries

humans reinforce unwanted behaviours

they don’t understand what we expect

greetings happen too fast

they’ve never practiced calm behaviour

This module corrects these problems with structure, practice, and controlled exposure.

🔵 2. Polite Greetings with People

Jumping, pawing, barking, pulling — these aren’t dominance behaviours.
They’re excitement behaviours.

 The Calm Greeting Formula

(Used by professional trainers)

Excitement = no greeting
Calmness = greeting

Simple, powerful, effective.

 

 Step-by-Step Training for Calm Greetings

Step 1: Pre-Greeting Calm

Before approaching a person:

  • ask for sit (or stand if dog prefers)
  • reward calm body language

If dog cannot sit from excitement —
move away, reset, try again.

Step 2: Approach Using the 3-Step Rule

  1. Take 2–3 steps toward person
  2. If dog stays calm → keep moving
  3. If dog becomes excited → step back

This teaches the dog:
“Calm gets you closer.
Excitement makes the greeting go away.”

Step 3: The Greeting Moment

When within 1–2 yards/metres:

  • dog must be calm AND have four paws on the ground
  • person must ignore the dog until calm

Then person may:

  • offer a hand
  • speak softly
  • give a gentle pat

Only praise when dog remains calm.

Step 4: Release Cue

Greeting ends with:

  • “All done”
  • “Free!”
  • or your release word

This prevents lingering excitement.

 Training the Polite Greeting Indoors First

Practice with:

  • family
  • friends
  • visitors invited for training

You teach:

  • sit for greeting
  • stay calm when someone enters
  • mat training (dog stays on mat while person enters)

Mat training works brilliantly:
Door opens → dog stays on mat → gets rewarded → greeting happens calmly.

🔵 3. Stopping Jumping on People

Jumping is usually caused by:

  • excitement
  • seeking attention
  • humans accidentally rewarding it

Here’s how to eliminate it.

 

 Set a Clear Rule

Jumping NEVER gets attention.

When dog jumps:

  • turn away
  • no talking
  • no touching
  • no eye contact

When dog stops jumping:

  • “Yes!” → reward calm behaviour
  • offer greeting

Dogs learn FAST with this clarity.

 Replace Jumping With a Functional Behaviour

Teach:

  • sit
  • hand target (“touch”)
  • calm stand

Give them something TO DO instead of jumping.

🔵 4. Polite Behaviour Around Other Dogs

Social behaviour with other dogs must be taught —
it does not happen automatically.

Dogs often:

  • pull toward other dogs
  • become overexcited
  • bark with frustration
  • rush into greetings
  • greet too intensely
  • ignore warning signals

This module fixes all of these issues.

 Step 1: Controlled Distance (Critical for Success)

Start at a distance where your dog:

  • can look at a dog
  • remain calm
  • respond to cues
  • check in with you

This is called the Awareness Zone, not the Explosion Zone.

 Step 2: Reward Calmness on Approach

As you walk toward another dog:

  • reward check-ins
  • reward calm body behaviour
  • reduce pace
  • speak softly

If your dog becomes excited:

  • increase distance
  • reset

Distance = control.

 Step 3: Side-by-Side Walking Before Greeting

Before dogs actually meet:

  1. Walk parallel to the other dog
  2. Dogs face the same direction
  3. Humans remain calm
  4. Reward calm walking

This reduces frontal pressure (which causes tension).

 Step 4: The “3-Second Dog Greeting Rule”

This prevents:

  • tension
  • intimidation
  • escalation
  • over-arousal

The Rule:

  1. Dogs sniff briefly (3 seconds)
  2. Humans gently call dogs away
  3. Reward both dogs

Short, controlled greetings = success.

 Step 5: Call Away & Release

Teach your dog to return to you after greeting:

  1. Call your dog back
  2. Reward generously
  3. Release with “Go say hi” for a second greeting

This reinforces control + social opportunities.

🔵 5. Preventing & Fixing Overexcited Greeting Behaviours

 Problem: Dog pulls toward people/dogs

Fix:

  • increase distance
  • use 3-step approach
  • reward check-ins
  • teach loose-lead walking (Module 10)

 Problem: Dog barks in excitement

Fix:

  • increase distance
  • use engagement games
  • reward quiet moments
  • avoid high-pressure greetings

 Problem: Dog becomes mouthy or jumpy

Fix:

  • use sit or hand-target as alternative
  • reward calm behaviour
  • keep greetings short

 Problem: Dog ignores owner when others are around

Fix:
Go back to Module 7 — strengthen focus and engagement first.

🔵 6. Teaching Calm Behaviour Around Visitors at Home

Visitors are one of the top triggers for overexcitement.

Here’s the professional routine:

 Routine: The Visitor Protocol

Step 1: Dog goes to mat
Step 2: Visitor enters quietly
Step 3: Dog stays on mat until release
Step 4: Calm greeting allowed only when dog is settled

Reward heavily for staying calm.

This prevents:

  • barking
  • jumping
  • rushing door
  • overwhelm

🔵 7. Reading Dog Body Language During Social Interactions

Knowing what dogs are saying during greetings stops problems early.

 Signs of Calm, Polite Interaction

  • loose body
  • soft tail wag
  • curved body approach
  • brief sniffing
  • turning away afterwards

 Signs of Over-Arousal

  • stiff body
  • high tail
  • intense pulling
  • whining or barking
  • weight shifted forward

Increase distance immediately.

 Signs of Discomfort or Stress

  • lip licking
  • yawning
  • looking away
  • tucking tail
  • moving behind you

End the greeting calmly. 

🔵 8. Practical Exercises for Module 12

Exercise A: Step-In, Step-Out Greeting Drill

Move toward person 2 steps → reward calm
Move back 2 steps → reset
Repeat until calm behaviour increases.

Exercise B: Hand Target Greeting

Teach dog to “Touch” person’s hand instead of jumping.

Exercise C: Visitor Mat Routine

Train calmness on a mat before greeting.

Exercise D: Parallel Walking with Another Dog

Side-by-side walking → calm → controlled greeting.

Exercise E: The 3-Second Rule Practice

Short sniff → recall → reward → optional second greeting.

🔵 9. What Success Looks Like After Module 12

By the end of this module, your dog will:

greet people without jumping or pulling

stay calm when visitors arrive

approach dogs politely and confidently

disengage on cue after greetings

control excitement in social settings

walk calmly around dogs and people

show better emotional stability overall

And YOU will:

understand social body language

know exactly how to structure greetings

prevent over-arousal before it starts

confidently manage interactions

give your dog safe, positive social experiences

know when to step in and when to step back

Module 12 turns chaos into calm, and confusion into confident, polite behaviour.

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